4 Reasons to Not Fear Labor & Delivery

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Why is it that when you’re nearing the homestretch of your pregnancy that people suddenly want to tell you all their horror stories involving their labor and delivery?

I can remember wondering if these people wanted me to have a crappy experience. Seriously, why was it necessary to tell me all the negative things that happened to them and their baby during their delivery? Were they deliberately trying to psych me out? Just show off in some twisted way? Somehow make themselves look tough or worthy of sympathy?

I’ll be honest, I still don’t get it. It seems everyone has a horror story to tell when it comes to their labor and delivery experience. Really, I think it comes down to this: those that had a poor labor and delivery experience are the ones who like to talk about it. And those who had a fine experience don’t feel the need to go into details. It’s a rather personal experience, after all, and if there wasn’t anything terrible that makes you feel like you need to tell people, why would you want to go into those intimate details?

So before you let all those Negative Nancy’s get to you and freak the living daylights out of you, here are four reasons you should ignore any and all horror stories that are thrown your way.

4 Reasons to Not Fear Labor and Delivery. Read for four truths when it comes to labor and delivery that will help settle your fears and set you up for a positive experience.

1. Everyone’s Delivery Experience Is Different

Just because one person—or a lot of people—had a bad delivery experience doesn’t guarantee that you will. Heck, it doesn’t even increase the chances. Just because Freda over there labored for days on end before succumbing to medical procedures she did not want doesn’t mean that will happen to you.

It literally has nothing to do with you. Everyone’s body is different. Everyone handles things differently. Everyone’s experience is different. So don’t start hyperventilating every time someone tries to scare you with their delivery story.

2. It’s All About Your Outlook

I’m pretty well convinced that it’s all about your outlook. If you insist on viewing your labor and delivery negatively, than it will end up being a negative experience. If you focus on viewing everything as positively as you can, than it will be much more pleasant on you—and everyone else.

For example, I ended up having an epidural, even though I had specifically planned on not having any medication. (Who really wants an extra large needle stuck in their back, right?) I had specific reasons for not wanting one, and I had specific reasons for why I changed my mind.

Now, I could look back and think of it as a terrible experience because I didn’t get what I had planned or wanted. But really, it all ended up being a calculated decision and ended up being for the best. Having the epidural helped me deal with other situations that weren’t in my planned stack of cards.

These changes to my optimal plan didn’t ruin my outlook because I spent a lot of time during my pregnancy mentally training myself to not get upset if the plan needed to be changed. I thoroughly researched as many possible outcomes as I could beforehand. That way, when the time came, I could easily make decisions that didn’t line up with my original plan because I already knew all the information necessary to make those calls while in labor.

3. Everyone Has A Different Pain Threshold

Many horror stories involve women who had “excruciating” pain, and it is easily understandable why that would freak someone out.

Don’t let it psych you.

Everyone has a different level of tolerance for pain. You can’t compare your pain experience to someone else’s. Some people say it was the worst pain they’ve ever had.

Personally, I’ve definitely had worse pain from a period than I did from labor and delivery. For me, it was less about the pain and more about the pressure and inability to get in a full breath.

But I also know from other experiences that I have a high pain tolerance. So what might bother someone else may not bother me, while something that didn’t bother me might bother you. It’s really just an individual thing that you probably won’t know till you get there.

4. Psyching Yourself Out Sets You Up For Failure

If you listen to the people trying to freak you out, you will psych yourself out and it will set you up for a bad delivery experience. Now, just because you’re mentally set up for a bad experience doesn’t mean you’ll have one, but it definitely increases the odds. A decent bit of it comes down to mind over matter. And if you let your mind run wild it will become way more difficult to get under control and push through your delivery.

So if you find yourself bombarded with labor and delivery horror stories from other moms, take a step back and recollect.

Their story is not your story.

It doesn’t have to be the same way. Heck, it probably won’t be. You’ll have your own unique story. Whether it ends up being positive or not is largely up to you and how you choose to handle what is thrown your way.

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What about you?

Where/are you nervous about your labor and delivery? What’s your strategy for overcoming it? Let me know in the comments below!

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My name is Abby, and I'm a wife, mother of a crazy little boy, and lifestyle blogger.


  1. Farren-Jade Louwrens
    August 8, 2018

    At this moment I am still miles away from Kanpur and delivery as I’m only 7weeks 4days but I have definitely given it thought and what I’m worried about is if I don’t dialate enough … I want to give natural birth , pain doesn’t scare me as I know the biggest blessing will be in my arms after some pain but my concern is will I dialate enough…

    1. Linda
      August 8, 2018

      I am currently a few days overdue and this has been my fear (as well as not going into labour naturally) but at the end of the day what is most important is the baby at the end. What will be will be and I think it is best to go with it and accept whatever fate deals you. No use trying to resist it. Good luck with your pregnancy and labour

      1. Abby @ theMomCorner
        August 8, 2018

        Hi Linda! I do recall being nervous about labor not starting naturally. In the end I did end up having to be induced, but it all worked out and didn’t end up being a bad experience. I agree with you though that sometimes things happen and you just have to go with it. It can be hard, but a healthy baby and mommy is what matters most! 🙂

    2. Abby @ theMomCorner
      August 8, 2018

      Hi Farren! It can definitely be a bit disconcerting to not know whether it will all go down the way we want it to. I would recommend talking about it with your doctor. I’m not a medical expert, but there may be ways that they can help you to dilate if you end up getting stuck so that you can deliver as naturally as possible. I hope your pregnancy goes well, and best of luck to you! 🙂


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